While birding with Corey a while back, I was abruptly struck with a somewhat bittersweet realization: I am at the nadir of my birding career. By career, I mean the ability to pursue bird watching to the extent of my desire, which is, as the name of this blog implies, rather ambitious. By nadir, I mean the very lowest point, rock bottom, the pits.
This observation may appear introspective or odd and yet, it’s not altogether unfortunate. After all, the reason I can’t spend huge chunks or even tiny fragments of free time out in the field enjoying nature is that I have two spectacular children that are more worthy of my attention. Mason and Ivy collectively conspire though age and adorability to require every scrap of energy not already committed to work, home, and my lovely wife, not to mention just staying alive. By the time they finally lapse into slumber at night, I might be able to devote some time to supplementary birding activities (like blogging) but birding itself is impossible.
The tragedy here is that my birding career is barely older than my eldest child. I picked up the passion in 2003, just a year before Mason was born. If only I had recognized the allure of avian observation in my 20s, back when my time and energy far outstripped my financial wherewithal! During that decade of my life, wanderlust propelled me back and forth across the United States. Had I been attending to my life list while idling away in southern California or Texas’ fabled Hill Country, who knows what kind of damage I could have done. Most assuredly, I would have enjoyed my time and travels even more.
I also squandered that critical period that so many of my generation seems to experience where material resources achieve an fortuitous equilibrium with extant time, allowing for indulgences like international travel. Can you believe that on our honeymoon, Sara and I actually had a full day in Fairbanks, AK, scant miles from the Arctic Circle, with absolutely nothing to do? While we were able to retrospectively add obvious birds like magpies and ptarmigans to our lists, we lacked the foresight to look for the more coveted species in that part of the world… what a waste! And if you think Alaska sounds like a blown birding opportunity, let me point out that we also spent a glorious week in Hong Kong completely oblivious to the enticements of Asian avifauna!
If I was a birder when we stumbled over this Spruce Grouse in Alaska, I might have gotten a better photo!
Yes, life before children can be quite productive in terms of chasing birds, but all is not lost. I consider this period the NADIR of my birding career, not its abortive end. Visualize a capital letter V and then place my ability, energy, and opportunity to purse birding as I deem fit at the nethermost point of the V. While one could scarcely argue that I’ve ever, at least in my adult life, been in less of a position to indulge in recreational wildlife watching, it seems clear that good times lie ahead. As my children become older and more independent, travel opportunities will open up. As a matter of fact, if their adventurous ways are any indication, either or both of my kids might become eager birders themselves. Who knows… maybe Sara will even come back into the fold, although I think my genuine interest in ambiguous sandpiper species has scared her off for good!
Yes, I will be birding more. The beauty of birding is that it can be enjoyed over a long lifetime, which is just what I intend to do. Times may be tough now, but retirement is only three or four decades away; when that glorious moment comes, I’ll be well-positioned to make the most of it!
Oh, no – I thought I had the monopoly on bittersweet introspection round here…what on earth am I going to write about NOW! :))
Mike,
Why don’t you take the kids with you? I take my kids all the time (kicking and screaming I might add), but once they get out, they seem to really enjoy themselves. Plus if you get the bug in them early, won’t be long before they are asking you to take them birding! Plus what better way is there to teach kids how to protect the environment than to get them out into it?
Don’t worry, Charlie… I reckon there’s enough room on this boat for everyone.
Will, you’re going to have to share some pointers. The trouble isn’t getting my kids out – they love nothing better than tramping through the woods, the little scamps. I just can’t focus on birding while managing them, not to say that many birds stick around in the face of their enthusiasm.
Mike, I’m sure you’re being extra hard on yourself here. At least you’re not squandering your birding for something useless – your family is the best (and maybe only? 🙂 ) reason to forego birding.
Yeah it’s hard trying to watch birds and your kids at the same time.
But try taking them to places that are popular, have feeders or other viewing stations. Birds get used to people. You still get good birds, the kids can see them and everyone wins. Botanical Gardens I have found to be good as well.
Either that or move north. Common Redpolls and Pine Grosbeaks don’t care one bit about noisey kids, neither do Gray Jays.
It might be a good thing that you hadn’t discovered birding by your honeymoon…your marriage might have been been shorter than [insert some celebrity known for a short marriage]’s.
And nothing scares off almost-birders and prospective-birders like shorebirds. How can there be so many birders in Britain?
Mike, I think I know how you feel– I just turned 40, and developed this particular interest only a year or so ago myself. I also traveled extensively when I was younger– places to which I’m sure I’ll never return– and thought little of the opportunity squandered.
You’re in a remarkable position to share your knowledge and passion and hope it rubs off on a succeeding generation– it’s a blessing, not an obstruction.
Thanks to you and the others for the blog– it’s a quotidian part of my online life.
When I was 17, I went to Mexico and did not one bit of birding, so I do feel your pain.
Next to family, birding is my life and I think we all get down and a bit overwhelmed…I am noticing that kids don’t stay little long, it seems like yesterday my son was a baby and he is already ten!
Merry Christmas and good birding to you and your family!
You’re right on that score, Patrick. If you have to forgo birding, family is the best reason.
Stuart, thanks for the kind words. Your photos are spectacular!
I know what you mean, Veery. Happy holidays to you, your family, and the whole Birdfreak brigade.
I think we all get those lean times, even those of us without children around to cramp our style.